Susie Weber, Nurse, University of Michigan Medical Center
My name is Susie Weber and I first met Shelly in early spring of this year.
She was an artist, creating masterpiece upon masterpiece. And I --- I painted
small brown circles on a certain spot on her chest, in preparation for
chemotherapy. I was one of her nurses. And my small brown circles paled
greatly in comparison to her ability and her expression.
There’s a story told by a dear friend of mine, which I have retold many a
bedtime evening to my 5 year old son. About a month or so ago though, after
101 tellings of this very tale to my son, all of a sudden I heard a different
story within that story. And it became, to me, a story of Shelly Volk.
The story is about an earthworm named Herman who one day ventures above
ground against his Grandfather’s warning. Now Herman loved his home and was
most happy making tunnels in the cool, crumbly earth. He loved all that
activity that happened underground and he would say along with his
Grandfather “This place has got the buzz of life.”
And yet his curiosity sent him beyond those comforts of home, beyond what was
familiar. And he went above ground, and he met a caterpillar named
Marguerite. And they became friends. They discovered some differences
between them, yet their friendship continued to unfold. They also discovered
a lonely orchard, without sounds, without bees and without apples.
One day Herman was feeling rather despondent about being a worm in comparison
to his friend the caterpillar. He complained to his Grandfather by saying
“I’m just a dumb old worm. We don’t have eyes. We don’t have feet. Worms
can’t do anything.”
Grandfather said “Herman, what do you do all day?”
“Make tunnels” Herman mumbled.
Grandfather answered, “That’s right Herman, you make tunnels. And nothing
grows without our help. All these roots down here are bottoms of tops that
need air and water to grow. Everyone has a gift Herman. And we use our
gifts. And when we use them well, everything hums.”
Grandfather taught Herman a song. I won’t actually sing it to you. I’ll just
say some of the words in this song. And some of the words go “What we do
down here, Herman, how we worm and how we squirm, how we wiggle and how we
squiggle, lets them live up there.”
And so the friendship between Herman and Marguerite continued to evolve, and
wonderful things happened. They learned how to help each other and they
learned to believe in themselves. In the end, they brought life to the lonely
orchard, by involving frogs and deer and bees and rabbits and dragonflies.
And its written, “The orchard lifted its limbs, opened its blossoms, and
danced in the breeze.”
It was Grandfather who below felt the roots of an apple tree and so he came
above ground to witness all that activity and he exclaimed, “Herman, this
place has got the buzz of life on it!”
The buzz of life, that’s what Shelly gave. That’s what Shelly gave. From
the depths of a world so changed for her and seemingly full of limitations,
this young girl showed us the meaning of the buzz of life.
Adjustments and transitions were made with that same buzz of life. For
instance having her hair styled. Her remaining hair, that is, after
chemotherapy caused that hair to thin and fall away. Using a laptop computer
to communicate when her speech began to deteriorate. Using her left hand to
pick up where her right hand left off. From immobility to use that pencil
and that paintbrush to express herself. Delving into the enjoyment of a
chocolate hoho, with determined hand mouth coordination. Watching me enjoy a
bowl of chicken soup with shkedim and laughing with only part of her face as
I looked up at her and said, “Shelly, we’re shkedim sisters now.” And so we
toasted to life which shkedim.
The buzz of life always on her face. Several changes continued to redefine
t
he routine within the Volk household. And yet the buzz of life existed there
within the confines of their home as well as beyond their front door.
At Halloween she couldn’t say the words “Trick or Treat.” But she was the
most alive bunny I have ever seen. Being in a wheelchair, unable to move,
unable to release that expressive spirit, unable to eat.
Yet she gave to her family the buzz of life. When she could nod her head,
when she could blink communication with her eyes, when she would stay awake
to listen to stories and music on tape. And her family, with open hearts,
welcomed and encouraged that very buzz of life that showed itself in very
small and simple ways.
Shelly’s Mother and Father, Ruti and Howard, with devotion ever so deep and
so true, entrusted to their daughter the freedom to live the buzz of life. No
matter in what shape or form, they entrusted to her that freedom.
For me it has been both a joy and a privilege to share life with Shelly. For
her parents, I feel tremendous admiration and respect. And forever, I will
have gratitude for being reminded about the true meaning of the buzz of life.
Thank you.
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