Tuesday, 24-Nov-2009 01:51:32 EST

The 8 Habits

Here is information on Stephen R. Covey's The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People© and The 8th Habit: From Effectiveness to Greatness and my applications of them.

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Moral Authority and the Speed of Trust

Deposits	Withdrawals	Sacrifice Rquired	Internalized Principles
Seek first to understand	Seek first to be understood	Impatience, ego, your agenda	Mutual understanding
Keeping promises	Breaking promises	Moods, feelings, emotions, time	Integrity/execution
Honesty, openness	Smooth manipulation	Ego, arrogance, control	Vision/values, integrity/execution, mutual understanding
Kindness, courtesies	Unkindness, discourtesies	Self, time, perceptions, stereotypes, prejudices	Vision/values, integrity/execution
Win-win or no deal thinking	Win-lose or lose-win thinking	"winning means to beat," competitiveness	Mutual respect/benefit
Clarifying expectations	Violating expectations	Kiss-up style communication	Mutual respect/benefit, mutual understanding, creative cooperation, renewal
Loyalty to the absent	Disloyalty, duplicity	Some social acceptance, heart massage	Vision/values, integrity/execution
Apologies	Pride, conceit, arrogance	Ego, arrogance, pride, time	Vision/values, integrity/execution
Receiving feedback and giving "I" messages	Not receiving feedback and giving "you" messages	Ego, arrogance, pride, reactive communication	Mutual understanding
Forgiveness	Holding grudges	Pride, self-ceneredness	Vision/values, integrity/execution

This table from p. 165 of Stephen Covey's The 8th Habit: From effectiveness to greatness as part of the 8th Habit Challenge.

Principles and Paradigms Embodied in the 7 Habits

Habit	Principle	Paradigm
Be Proactive	Responsibility/Initiative	Self-determination
Begin with the End in Mind	Vision/Values	Two Creations/Focus
Put First Things First	Integrity/Execution	Priority/Action
Think Win-Win	Mutual Respect/Benefit	Abundance
Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood	Mutual Understanding	Consideration Courage
Synergize	Creative Cooperation	Value Differences
Sharpen the Saw	Renewal	Whole Person

This table from p. 154 of Stephen Covey's The 8th Habit: From effectiveness to greatness as part of the 8th Habit Challenge.

The Time Management Matrix

	Urgent	Not Urgent
Important	I - Necessity Crisis, pressing problems, deadlines, stress, burnout	II - Effectiveness Prevention, relationship building, planning, exercising, preparation, recognizing opportunities, recreation, effective personal management
Not Important	III - Deception Interruptions; some calls, mail, reports, meetings; popular activities	IV - Waste & excess Busy work; some calls, mail; time wasters

Win/Win Agreements

List desired restults (not methods) describing what is to be done by when.
Specify any guidelines that must be followed.
Identify human, financial, technical, or organizational resources which are available
Define accountability, what are the standards and when/how will they be evaluated.
Specify consequences for success and/or failure.

From pp. 223 & 224 of Stephen Covey's The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

Applications

I have read The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People©, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People Personal Workbook, First Things First, Principle-Centered Leadership, and The 8th Habit: From effectiveness to greatness. I have commented on these books and how I try to apply them to my life in my blog: